Allright, almost a week ahead. The last couple of days definitely had some highs and some lows (like really low). Let’s start with telling you that I definitely see results and that the first night was not as worse as I expected.
Little mister X was used to falling asleep with a boob in his mouth and the all-night-milk-buffet
In my previous post I ‘confessed’ that I did it ‘all’. With ‘all’ I meant I do not only breastfeed on demand (I still do), but also nursed the little one to sleep and co-slept with him. So Little mister X was used to falling asleep with a boob in his mouth and the all-night-milk-buffet. Yes I know, I ‘spoiled’ him in that way. For quite some months this seemed the best way to get some sleep myself and keep my sanity.
Anyway, he is almost 9 months old now and I considered it time for a change.
Step 1 was learning little mister X to fall asleep not being latched to my boob.
This is how I accomplished this:
He was used to go to bed pretty late, like around 9pm. I decided I also want him to got to bed earlier so I started his whole sleep routine (bath/shower, pyjama’s, reading a book) around 7.45pm. Around 8.15pm I nursed him, but before he fell asleep I put him down and stayed with him.
Initially it took 30 minutes of crying before he fell asleep while I laid beside him singing sleep lullabies. Maybe this sounds easy, but it was definitely not. I’m used to immediately comfort him, but I kept telling him and myself that we were doing this for the long term, that he would learn to sleep like a baby and that would be better for all of us.
After two hours of sleeping he woke up again around 22.45pm and cried for 20 minutes (and I sang for 20 minutes… get the picture?). Two hours later (around 1.10am) he woke up again. This time I fed him and after that he cried for only 5 minutes before he drifted off to sleep. The next time he woke up was around 5am. I fed him again and after that he cried for only 2 minutes and then slept until 7am.
The duration of crying -thankfully- decreased during the first night. The second and third night involved only a little bit of crying and he settled down quite easily. The times he woke up, I stroked his belly, sang a lullaby and he drifted off to sleep again. I only fed him once during the night (and yes, that’s a great improvement!)
So far so good, right!? I was really happy with this result.
Night 4 & 5 I made some mistakes. Let’s say they cost me quite some sleep and involved some more tears
I didn’t really worked on his naps during these first days. Naps is not the right word, powernapping is what he used to do. I just kept it that way for the first few days. My main goal was to let him fall asleep without using me as a pacifier ;).
Night 4 & 5 I made some mistakes. Let’s say they cost me quite some sleep ;), involved some tears of me and helped me to reach my lowest point since I’m a mom. More about that in my next blog!
PS I’m writing this while little mister X is napping for almost 2 hours! So yes, considering napping we also made huge progress!